I'm going to be 28 in two months. For the past decade I've been excited to turn 30. I still can't wait to turn 30, but, at the same time, I'm not ready for these birthdays leading up to it. When my mom was visiting a few weeks ago, she asked me how I felt about turning 28. I told her "unaccomplished." She asked "Really?" rather incredulously. I don't blame her. And the more I think about the worse I feel. I feel bad that that was my response. And I feel bad that I think I am unaccomplished. Ultimately, it's not about turning 28 it's about getting closer to 30 and not being where I think I should be. I shouldn't feel this way though. I don't really feel this way. I feel this way every year when Forbes publishes it's 30 under 30 issue. And especially this last year when my coworker had 3 peers from his same class in college show up on the list. I feel this way when I see people my age dominating the blog-o-sphere. And when I think about where I thought I would be now, 10 years ago (married, with kids, owning a company, etc.). I feel this way when I compare myself to others.
And that, my friends, is the worst way to live your life.
Who says I have to be a millionaire to be accomplished? Who says I have to own a company or be married with 3 kids to be accomplished? No one. No one says that. And, if they do, they aren't worth listening to. I get to decide what accomplished means to me.
And, guess what?
I AM accomplished. I am so accomplished. I own a house! I have the job that was my dream job when I got it a few years ago. Who cares that it isn't my dream job now. If I got it once, I can get it again. I'm in a beautiful relationship and I have a great family. I have amazing friends. I live in the city I chose to live in and got to keep my "dream job" when I decided to move here. I've participated in 2 craft fairs this year and plan to do at least 2 more. I had a recipe and a DIY published to the Gawkerverse. How cool is that? I have so many opportunities ahead of me that are a result of my hard work and even though I don't know which I'm going to pursue, the fact that I have them is an accomplishment in and of itself. I make enough money. I make more than enough money. I know this because I survived making a 1/3 of what I do now just a few short years ago. Sure, I'd like to make more, but MONEY is not an accomplishment. At least, it's not for me. Not right now.
So, I'm excited to turn 28. I'm excited for my next journey around the sun. A whole new year to accomplish so much more. And I'm going to focus everyday on being grateful for what I have and proud of what I have accomplished thus far in my life.
What makes you feel accomplished? What is your definition of accomplishment?
p.s. Thanks Mom, for looking at me like I was an idiot for thinking I am unaccomplished. You were right (per usual), I was an idiot. :)